When Did We Become Me
Photo by: Thirdman
Be aware of your words of inclusion
When communicating a vision so deep.
Most passions come out as predictions,
That need an army of executions.When speaking of the direction,
It’s natural to say “we,”
Hoping the “we” becomes “why.”
However, “we” becomes you and I,
Pulling you into “how.”“How” is a hole for a leader,
Forcing the need to inspire,
Knowing the feeling of belief inside.
Most leaders try to lift up others,
Creating action-takers from doers to dreamers,
Attaching each focus or thought,
To a need to have you there.When you want to see plans,
This language will only create demands,
Charging you with frustration.
Understand this is the result of your situation,
With little action or momentum.The team of builders need a chance to own,
Accountability comes from clarity and trust,
Leaving a place to go for answers.
Each person has a piece of the vision you must keep.
If you ask yourself, “When did we become me?”
The words you used trapped the plan to be.
Leading a team to a vision,
Is not guiding more “we” ideas to the “why” connection.
Leading a team to a vision,
Is connecting “you” own “what” to “why” that creates execution.
Description
This poem was written in 2024, entitled ‘When did we become me?’. This piece was written for all the times we use our words and we really want to connect with people through our hearts because our hearts create vulnerability and openness. We often think that by sharing through our hearts it’s going to move things forward, but sometimes it can also make it confusing and unclear of whose responsible for what.
A misplaced We.
For entrepreneurs and women leaders, effective communication is crucial. The language of inclusion, while well-intentioned, can sometimes blur the lines of direction. Using “we” can create confusion, making it unclear who is responsible for what. This poem highlights the importance of shifting from “we” to “you” to set clear directions and empower the team. By making this simple yet profound change, leaders can foster accountability, trust, and effective execution. The work also focuses on the work needed for leaders to shift themselves into their real direction. About using proper communication to create that direction, so that people can be empowered and can move themselves.
I want to acknowledge that it's a really hard thing to do, and I’ve always struggled with it. So I wanted to write a poem reflecting that struggle and the real tactics used to overcome this imposter syndrome and how to be much clearer to get people to be able to action some of the things I'm trying to accomplish in the business. I also reflect on how good it can feel to get thid kind of clarity, to know your own mind and really believe in what you want to do. It can be easy to focus on other people and other dreams, but the magic is focusing on whats happening for you and prioritizing action. The poem reflects a lot of my self discovery as I moved from the founder role into the CEO. How I essentially Scaled Up. There are critical mindsets you need to adopt in order to get there, and this poem is features just one aspect.
For any females, whether you're stay at home mom or just starting a job or trying to climb up to different roles, a lot of the hurt w feel comes from not knowing how to communicate our needs to others. So we must learn, even if it doesn’t come straight away but we must begin to be more direct with what the things that we truly need. So me doesn’t we, and we protect the me.
